Maybe it hasn't actually been a physical fight, but have you ever gotten that gut instinct that your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't treating you right? Do you ever feel put down or shamed by them for the things you say, or the way you dress? It's easy to get so caught up in feeling in love that you become blind to the ways you are treated badly.
Have you ever noticed any of the following danger signs in your relationship?
One-Sidedness – One person dominates the relationship
Manipulation – The person does anything to get what he or she wants.
Possessiveness – The person becomes extremely jealous if you talk to or hang around with other people.
Unrealistic Demands – The person tells you that you must think, act, or dress a certain way in order to remain friends.
Anger – The person gets extremely angry or physically violent.
If you have noticed any of these signs, it's time to get help! First of all, don't feel bad or embarrassed if you have never realized it before. Or maybe you have seen "red flags" but brushed them under the rug, thinking it's not that big of a deal. Well, if your boyfriend/girlfriend is physically or emotionally hurting you, it is a big deal. It's easy to make excuses for that person, but the bottom line is that you deserve to be treated better.
If you have a gut feeling that something isn't right, but you can't quite put your finger on it, describe the situation to a trusted adult and ask for their opinion. If you do decide that there is a problem, the next step is to get help.